If the woman chooses to get pregnant, she has the choice of keeping the child, putting the child up for adoption, or abortion.
If she chooses to keep the child, the man has only two choices: pay child support or go to jail. Also, the men who pay taxes have no choices but to pay if she chooses to raise the child under welfare.
“The problem is, the women demand sole right to the choices, but ALSO demand that men ensure that the woman’s negative consequences for her decision are minimized.”
Not just men, but everyone else has no choice, including other women. So like you wrote, on the one hand the pro-aborts say no one has a right to tell women what to do, but on the other hand, she has the right to demand that other people either pay for her abortion (via Obamacare) or take care of the child after it’s born. It’s a very illogical position, but pro-aborts aren’t known for their logic.