Posted on 07/27/2013 12:15:47 PM PDT by nickcarraway
No.
And not because of moral reasons, it's simply a matter of practicality. I've never seen a polygamous relationship in which every participant was happy and content. Because of my research into alternative lifestyles, I actually know a lot of people who are in polygamous relationships (there are support groups for that, you know). I don't think it is immoral, as long as all parties involved are consenting adults.
However in practice, such a relationship requires way too much energy to maintain, and one or two people are always left feeling unhappy, undervalued, not needed, and not loved. Human beings are selfish and possessive, especially when they're in love. Very few people are capable of sharing their loved ones with other people, even under the pretense that you receive love from the other person. This is especially true if the polygamous relationship is 1 male + multiple females or 1 female + multiple males. One will undoubtedly become the favorite, and the other will end up resentful and feeling depressed.
An ideal situation, which most polygamous relationships I knew were trying to achieve, is somewhat a "network" of love, instead of a pyramid. For example, in a relationship with one male and three females, if the love exists only between the male and each female, it's not going to work. It has to be male and female, and female and female, in other words, everyone needs to love everyone.
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Who wants two WIVES????
I remember the guy who was stranded on a polynesian island for twenty years and his brother finally found him.
He had 15 wives and his brother was in awe, he couldn’t believe how lucky his brother was, and he told him so.
His brother just looked at him and said, “ I said ‘wives’, not ‘girlfriends’.”
Well, maybe three outta four - but the second from the right looks like Jake from State Farm.
Maybe, but at least it’d be quiet.
No. The most successful society in history, that of the US from roughly 1945-1962, was a heteronormative society based on the nuclear family of two parents and children. Polygamy operates in barbaric societies only because women amount to livestock in them. My thought is that anyone who thinks this is a good idea needs a yard of sharp steel shoved through them.
Let me emphasize again: All your wives would also have more husbands. Talk about a ripe swamp for disease to spread.
Well, you don’t need to be around TWO women you’re always wrong...
I don’t think you understand the concept of the female fight friend.
Midlife Crisis
When I was married 25 years, I took a look at my wife one day and said, "Honey, 25 years ago, we had a cheap apartment, a cheap car, slept on a sofa bed and watched a 10 inch black and white TV, but I got to sleep every night with a hot 25 year old blonde.
Now, we have a nice house, nice car, big bed, and plasma screen TV, but I'm sleeping with a 50-year-old woman. It seems to me that you are not holding up your side of things."
My wife is a very reasonable woman. She told me to go out and find a hot 25-year-old blonde, and she would make sure that I would once again be living in a cheap apartment, driving a cheap car, and sleeping on a sofa bed.
Aren't older women great? They really know to solve your mid-life crises...
The shoes will start filling up space on all available steps. The only one who will not like that is you. Purses will fill your closet shelves, and you will see more crap jewelry all over than you ever thought possible. All your faucets will be left dripping and all your lights will only be left on, as none of them know the switch also turns them off.
The only way multiples will work is if you have enough money. You’ll need several houses, cars for each, credit cards, etc. Or you grow your hair to your rear end, learn how to grow arugula, and live in a commune in Humboldt County.
And that is...the reply of the day!
I don’t even play that game with one wife.
God bless you! Hubby and I have been married thirty years and I dread the day one of us leaves this earthly life.
I would consider it but my one current wife wouldn’t let me.
True, and to quote a popular song,
What’s love got to do with it ?
This sort of marriage is meant to achieve biological, political, economic and status objectives. Its something that can work for rich or powerful men. Genghis Khan used this to unite the Mongol tribes, and ended up by becoming the direct ancestor of millions.
Its not meant to be emotionally satisfying on any conventional, intimate level.
I have a great mother in law and see no need to push my luck a second time
Joseph Smiths wives had other husbands too
More or less works that way in some parts.
A fair number of people in West Africa for instance.
Entirely up to my Wife. If she wants a Sister-Wife... I’m ok with it. As long as it’s someone we both can love and will love us and our children equally.
Unlikely? For certain.
But so is winning the lottery and someone always seems to come up with the numbers.there...
I get along better with my In-laws than i do my parents...
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