My son’s ex was a really nice girl; they had 2 kids and at first she was a really good mom. Then something happened with her and as soon as my son walked in the door from work, she would hand him the kids and leave for all or most of the night. After their separation he left the kids with her because she said she wanted them, but ended up getting custody because she got messed up with losers and couldn’t stay sober.
“Then something happened with her and as soon as my son walked in the door from work, she would hand him the kids and leave for all or most of the night.”
I think women read these fairytales with happily ever after endings. They’re inculcated with the prince charming view that somehow marriage is an end in itself and they will be blissfully happy. But it’s all work. They didn’t sign up for work. They wanted happily ever after. So, they go looking for it. It will take years before they realize they had it and blew it.