Of course, the other side of that coin occurred this morning at my firm: potential client comes in, asks for a document we’d already given him, then asks my (very attractive) legal assistant, “So, do you have kids?”. She says no, she has a dog. He hems and haws, then says, “Are you single?”. She says yes, he says, “Want to go to lunch?”
Holy crap, dude, you’re twice her age, annoying as hell and have a “magic water machine” business! And she’s ON MY CLOCK! I wasn’t present when this took place, she came back to my office and told me about it. I told her to call me immediately the next time he comes in the door. What a creep.
What’s wrong with asking someone to lunch? Sheesh, we’ve gotten soft! I grew up in the 70s when a train conductor asked me for a date: “Wanna go to a motel and smoke some weed?” Now that’s clueless.
So your (very attractive) secretary said no. And the guy left.
So we’re talking about an exchange that took maybe 90 seconds—but more like about 30 seconds.
The exchange was one your (very attractive) secretary was likely well familiar with—though not from that guy. Likely too she has parried many lame advances just like that one. Parrying lame advances goes with the job of being (very attractive)
From your description of the incident, she was just trying to flatter you. Your post was just a brag.
Which is ok.
But somehow, I felt sorry for the guy.
I don’t see the problem. It’s not like she left with him. And if they did go to lunch (at the proper time), so what? It is none of your business unless you specifically have a policy against employees dating clients.