Having spent a decade living in Greenwich Village, I can assure you that just as there are very masculine and very feminine lesbians, there are many gay men who do not look the stereotypical part. Would you call John Travolta feminine looking (prior to all the plastic surgery that is)?
It’s not about looks, it’s usually about actions. Sticking your d*ck in another man’s rear end is not masculine, I don’t care how many prison thugs do it.
I would. Going all the way back to "Welcome Back, Kotter", he had that fleshy-faced look, with full red lips. Not at all my idea of masculine.