This is all really an attempt by gay male activists to marginalize women. They hate mommy and mommy must be put in the closet. This is something that straight guys just don’t get about this dangerous group of men. Plus, as someone else has written, it gives them access to children.
I’ve always found that gay men inevitably have huge daddy issues.
That doesn’t contradict your point, that they may hate mommy too (maybe because she didn’t help them with daddy).
I haven’t encountered (worked with etc.) as many declared lesbians but the obverse seems to hold true with them: they hate their mommies or at least have some ugly conflicts with them.
My working theory anyhow, could be I’m way off...