I’ve always found that gay men inevitably have huge daddy issues.
That doesn’t contradict your point, that they may hate mommy too (maybe because she didn’t help them with daddy).
I haven’t encountered (worked with etc.) as many declared lesbians but the obverse seems to hold true with them: they hate their mommies or at least have some ugly conflicts with them.
My working theory anyhow, could be I’m way off...
Yes, mommy didn’t defend them against big, mean daddy. That’s generally how it plays out.
My theory on the hatred of women/mommies comes from their truly noxious terms and ideas about women’s sex organs. Truly disgusting.