There is no way you can be good enough to not get abused by abusers. That is what they do, and you can beat yourself silly over “If only I had done this instead of that, then daddy would not have beaten me....” but that kind of thinking is only going to make sure you stay enslaved forever.
The point at which you are free is when you can say, “Daddy was going to beat me no matter what I did, because Daddy has a problem that I can’t fix. I’m going to live my life with a clear conscience according to what I believe to be right, not trying to manipulate what my Daddy does or doesn’t do to me.”
I know whereof I speak, and so do a lot of people who have been through this process.
Abusers will always “infer” that you were disrespectful, selfish, evil, etc. That is what they do. If you live your life in fear of that you make them your masters.
We have to learn this. We REALLY have to learn this.
It's up to us to stay on topic,16 trillion in debt, no budget three years,no energy plan,not running the govt. but campaigning instead 200 times,playing golf while seal team 6 was underway from bagram to go get osamma,on and on it goes.
We can't get unnerved when they try and create non-issues to get us away from talking about what the true issues are.