Just a question for you - do you work with abused children, or survivors of those who have continued the cycle and turned into perpetrators? I was under the impression you were dealing with these children to prevent them from continuing their mistakes, dealing with adult women in an abusive situation is a different beast altogether. All I know is that my Mother was a rock for me, and without her I don’t know what I would have done. When I was grown and after she was gone I realized just how badly she had been abused by him before I was ever even born... Ultimately, he was even responsible for her death and although I managed to get him charged with elder abuse, he was never charged with attempted murder. I probably could have won a wrongful death suit against him, but I was too young (24yo) to even know there was such a thing until a year later. The way you spoke in a post about mothers being too stupid, or too afraid to leave - another post of yours about the woman who ended up murdered points to another reason why so many stay. A LITTLE compassion, at least when there isn’t participation and tacit approval is called for with these women.
NOTE to men who have suffered from false accusations by bitter ex-wives and such - and those who are abused by the WOMEN in their relationship - please trade all of the gender descriptions above, and in all of my posts on this thread to know where my heart is. I by no means want to imply that it is only men who are perpetrators of horrific abuse in many ways, shapes, and forms. I know very well that is not the case as my own nephew was almost killed by my sister, and it was her new husband who took the rap FOR her, and obviously didn’t do anything to stop it before it got to the point where my nephew would be dead if not for some extreme life-saving surgery and the grace of God. Too many in our world make assumptions that only men are capable of the type of rage, hatred, anger and control issues behind acts of abuse.
You don’t know my backstory, nor will I repeat it. Be careful judging those (like me) about whom you know nothing.
Just know that many of us who deal with abused children, women and even animals have ultimate compassion and inside knowledge because we have been through the exact same thing ourselves, unspeakable things that no human should have to endure.
You have no idea what I have been through.
All the best to you.