Posted on 05/31/2012 6:41:01 AM PDT by Hojczyk
Just how much of a bummer is it to be well past the age of adulthood and still living under your parent’s roof? As this living arrangement grows increasingly common, the perception is that it’s not so bad after all. In fact, living with mom and dad can be pretty sweet. According to a new survey, young adults who live with their parents are nearly as likely to say they are satisfied with their housing situation as those who live on their own.
The Great Recession has brought with it a reevaluation of the American Dream, and even whether a college degree is worth the money. Now, the idea of living at home with your parents isn’t associated with failure or a lack of achievement. More likely, young adults living with their parents are thought of as victims of unfortunate circumstances, with plenty of good company.
They may also be considered to be pretty smart customers: At the very least, they weren’t foolish enough to buy a home that they couldn’t afford—and that promptly declined in value by 50%. That’s what so many adults, young and old alike, did five or so years back. To homeowners who are deeply underwater or facing foreclosure, living debt-free in your parents’ home must sound like a nice possibility.
(Excerpt) Read more at moneyland.time.com ...
That is true.....and parents simply worry more about physical safety of girls.....which is normal
I had one adult girl at home....all i asked was where she was....even if at BFs
I left for work and college at 17....never lived at home for more than a week or two again
I wanted freedom baby
My middle son got a job on the west side of Houston in May 2011 after graduating from Texas A&M in December 2010. He had an apartment in College Station, with a lease that expired in April 2011. My wife and I live in the NASA area of Houston (at that time I was working for a JSC contractor).
He moved back in with us to build up a stake for a house. It meant a 50 minute commute (one-way), but it allowed him to bank most of his salary. The original plan was for him to stay with us for a year.
Due to a lot of paid overtime, he was able to get a down payment put together by October. After a couple of months of house-hunting, he decided to rent for a year or two instead. In February he moved into a rental house 10 minutes from where he works.
For my wife and I having him live at home was a fine arrangement. He did his own laundry, and cleaned up after himself. In September I got a job fairly close to his, and we would commute together occasionally.
Still, he wanted to be on his own. Can’t blame him. It was a long drive, and when you are searching for a spouse, who wants to be in the ‘rents house? So now he has own place.
He had us out there on Memorial Day. Fixed dinner for us. Showed us his pad. Kinda cool. *That’s* when you know you have succeeded as a parent.
(And we now have a hurricane getaway that isn’t 200 miles away.)
That is true.....and parents simply worry more about physical safety of girls.....which is normal
I had one adult girl at home....all i asked was where she was....even if at BFs
I left for work and college at 17....never lived at home for more than a week or two again
I wanted freedom baby
It means I live under their rules, their way, on their terms. I don't like that very much. No thanks. I'll pass. My parents and I get along great, and I'd like to keep it that way.
Besides. "Uhhh, I live with my parents" isn't very impressive to women.
Still, I was raised that you were expected to make your own way. No mooching. My sisters had a different message, but we all went our own way.
This can work, if everyone has clear boundaries. In my experience, that isn't the case.
If I tried that one under ma and pa’s roof, I’d be a dead man. Mom would kill me, and then she’s start crying and put what’s left of me through the guilt trip for years. Then the old man would kill me for doing that to Mom.
Who wrote this story? Beavis or Butthead?
In Italy, “37 percent of 30-year-old men live with their parents, and have never lived anywhere else”
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/03/04/books/review/the-rise-of-multigenerational-and-one-person-households.html?pagewanted=all
Becoming more like Italy isn’t the kind of change I’m hoping for.
Ain't that the truth! I'm pushing 50 and I sfeel like my mom talks to me like a child. I've had to be mean to my family (so they think) just to get the point across that I'm an adult and I'll do as I want, not as they want.
Our daughter couldn't wait to get out of the house and be on her own. She had to move back in after she quit her job in LA, but that was just for a few months.
-—Society has shifted back - we are all newly arrived immigrants to these expensive shores now. Young adults used to live with their parents - to build up savings to buy a house - wait until they got married and start out with money in the bank, etc.——
I agree. It generally makes sense, except for those who refuse to work, or hold a steady job.
Plus, the family/clan is the best protection against the omnipotent State and tough times. I saw that with the family we have in Poland.
In the 19th century, kids often got married at 15 & 16 years old. Now days, kids “hook-up” & sponge off mom & dad and play with their X-Boxes till the morning sun rises.
home builders here in SoCalif are starting to build multi-generational housing
Well, whose grand idea was it that kids should be pushed out of the nest anyway?
Years ago, several generations lived together. Now, 18 - 22 year olds are either off to college or expected to be out on their own.
Why? My kids can live with me as long as they need to, and if necessary, can move back in.
“I would never have to cut the grass, weed the garden, cut and split fire wood and any other chores I could think of. May be there is a reason they are not living at home.”
That was the reason I as a student NEVER would (again) get suspended from school. School was an easy gig compared to a hard day of farm work.
Freeloaders.
That is what makes America great-independence.
Independence from what? British colonialism? taxes? A mortgage? I wonder if you think before you parrot these phrases.
If you are living with your parents, you are still dependent.
I am amazed at the level to which the average intellegence level has sunk down to on FR.
If you are living with your parents, you are still dependent and not independent,
I am amazed at the level to which the average intelligence level has sunk down to on FR.
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