Stupid post. Have you ever taken any courses in psychology? Some experiences in your life change your psyche forever, some for the better, some for worse. For many people, it depends on what foundation was there to begin with what changes will manifest, to what extent, and if those changes will become permanent. A person can consciously work to mitigate those changes to their id or psyche when they recognize them, but that doesn’t mean that all past experiences for others will be overcome to gidget7’s satisfaction or expectations. For many children, it takes a great deal of inner mental strength to come out of such experiences sane or alive at all. Don’t judge me.
I am not judging you, I simply asked a question. It was meant to help. You are allowing something from your past to determine your present and future. If that is how you want to live, it is your decision and you have every right to have it. I am simply pointing out, you don’t have to. I was fortunate in that I learned to forgive and move on.