I am not judging you, I simply asked a question. It was meant to help. You are allowing something from your past to determine your present and future. If that is how you want to live, it is your decision and you have every right to have it. I am simply pointing out, you don’t have to. I was fortunate in that I learned to forgive and move on.
It has nothing to do with forgiveness. I can forgive till I’m blue in the face. Your outlook is simplistic. One size does not fit all. I didn’t say my life is completely controlled by my past. I didn’t say I am completely debilitated and non-functioning because of my past. And no one else here has said as much either. I think that if you say your past does not affect your present whatsoever, you’re fooling yourself. We are all products of our past and our experiences ~ positive and negative.