The trophy-hunting, and the accusations of racism if they are not encouraged, are real, and you were wise to warn your daughter.
It is a simple fact that I have been harassed by black men quite a bit, and that they do so in a way that’s more....I don’t know, predatory?.....than white men. That’s thirty years of my experience, and it might be uncomfortable and un-PC, but there it is. A black guy sneered at me once, “What’s the matter? Don’t you like the black meat?”
I’m in my 40s and I still see it. Just the other day, I was doing some shopping in Kroger, and there were two young black guys in the front of the store, with the baggy pants down around their hips, and one of them was dancing, with no regard for the people who were trying to get around him. Of course no one had the nerve to speak up-—might seem racist. I needed to get past, so I said sharply, “Watch out!” and walked between them so they had to move. One of the guys muttered something, but all I could make out was “Hey baby, why don’t you-—”and then a security guard walked up and they moved on.
It’s a fact of life, and I’m not going to pretend it isn’t so that I can seem more tolerant.
Take Derbyshire’s advice and find another store to shop in that doesn’t tolerate that kind of intimidating behavior and let the management of the store know the reason you’re leaving.
Let’s get married.