A heart-breaking result for sure. I’m sure you have a connection here and I commiserate. But, I would remind you that there are stories like this, real and concocted, that inundate our free society. It is still not my problem. It is government’s job to root out the fakes so, hopefully, real problems like you relate are addressed within the limited ability government should have in such cases.
You don’t need to remind me of anything, really. All it would take is for a few people to blow the whistle on the defrauders so that people with ligitimate dibilitating illnesses wouldn’t have to be lumped into the “welfare nation” that you mention.
I hope the day never comes when you or someone you know and love has to go through this type of situation, but if you/they do, please remember that until we have a police state and/or socialized medicine, the defrauders will continue to take what they want. And of course with the former choices, the aged and the disabled will be euthanized, so there will be no problem.
People who really need the help are forced to beg for it, sometimes for years, and finally, in desperation, they turn to an attorney. Educate yourself about what you can do instead of blaming the government. They will never know of the loopholes until someone speaks up about them.
Will you be that person?
Government doesn't do that job. Most "government" employees perceive their function is to help their department grow, thus not only "doing their job" but ensuring its continuance as well.
Leaving this function in the hands of "the government" is merely shirking it. That is your right, as far as I'm concerned.
But if you want to see the problem of the truly needed being resolved, you should assist in developing a responsible charity to do it. There are such. There should only be such, but Sturgeon's Law applies.