You are entitled to your own opinion,
but you are not entitled to make up your own facts.
Until 9/20/2011 the law and the regulations prohibited any homosexual behavior, to include being in a same-sex romantic or sexual relationship.
DADT was a policy of the commander-in-chief (or Defense Secretary) to never “ASK” a soldier only so long as the soldier did not “TELL” (which meant a soldier was free to try to keep it a secret, but the soldier ran the risk of being discovered and then the command would enforce the law and regulations).
http://www.armyg1.army.mil/hr/command/docs/TriFold.pdf
So, as I said, these women are known lawbreakers and liars because they were active homosexuals while DADT was in effect who successfully hid that from the command.
“Both women, ages 22 and 23 respectively, are fire controlmen in the Navy. They met at training school and have been dating for two years.” http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/45753034/ns/us_news-life/#.TvNcCvKPa8A
It is very simple: you are factually wrong.
Oh believe me, she was quite open about it to the point of attending pride parades in uniform and posting all about it all on facebook. She most definitely DID NOT keep anything a secret. So yeah, most definitely factually wrong.
I know “Missy” Gaeta personally and she was bisexual (I am still good friends with her ex-boyfriend who was seriously thinking about a future with her) before she joined up and soon as she did, she was FAR more about marching against DADT and gay activism all while she was serving than she was in serving her country. She was blatantly in violation and knew it when she signed up and while she was serving. I was facebook and real life friends with her for awhile and she was obsessed with her lesbianism and DADT for years. It defined her to the deteriment of everything else. She also has a huge chip on her shoulder about it and believe me for that and other reasons relating to her personality (why I no longer can allow her to be in my life), I worry about her having a security clearance (flies off at the handle, bipolar, delusional, randomly attacks people out of nowhere etc.) Just listen to her interview. Serving in the Navy has never been about serving our country for her, it was always about her, Snell, and being a lesbian. That she was chosen and neither of them look like most lesbians, strongly suggests to me that this was a set-up.