Any of the women who have been helped by my husband could falsely claim that he was paying them for services rendered. That just goes with the territory. That’s why we have libel laws - to protect against that kind of thing. It would be a he-said-she-said thing.
Most situations go through the Ministerial Association. But sometimes they are out of money, have already given their limit for that person, or aren’t available at the time. In those instances when the crisis doesn’t fall neatly into the schedule, my husband has to make a choice, knowing that whatever he does to the least of these, he does to the Lord.
If the Lord needed gas to get to work in the morning so the family could become self-sustaining, and you were the only person around to help, would you do it? And then who would you go tell all about your act of charity? Again, most of the time my husband tells me but not all the time, depending on how busy we are.
Libel laws can't undue the damage done to one's reputation.
Giving gas money to an individual is one thing, giving money to a woman for 13 years is something else.
You clearly have a hard time with context.