Naive my ass. The guys a rich man who had thousands of employees and contacts and has probably given help and money to hundreds of people in his long career. I have been in business for over 40 yrs on two continents and I can tell you I have helped plenty of people off the cuff. Some become pain is the asses and call and try to keep the gravy train going. Some take it and move on. And sometimes I told my wife and sometimes I didn’t....for no other reason that I forgot about it. it isn’t what our life was about. And sometimes the person in question would call my home and then I would have to talk about it...until she would just tell me to stop being such a soft touch...even if it was a younger woman.....end of story. But then my wife is a grown up, like Cain’s wife, from a different generation, I guess.
Fair point. I’m 20 years his junior. Maybe it’s a generational thing. But it’s all a moot point now. The damage has been done. And if it was all completely innocent and this has been a character assassination, I’m sorry for HC.
You’re missing the point. On purpose - I believe.
FTA: Cain said that in retrospect he should have told his wife about his friendship with White, “but retrospect doesn’t necessarily change what’s going on now.”
Cain KNEW he shoulda told the missues. Scratch that. Cain KNEW he shoulda never had that sorty of “friendship” in the first place.
I understand what you are saying about being generous and giving money only to have it backfire. I do. Been there - done that. But using Cain’s own words here....
In “retrospect”... he shoulda not done it.
If you imagine that for a wife, being "grown up" means not expecting your husband to be accountable for his actions, you are sorely mistaken. Quite the contrary: having an "adult" and "mature" marriage relationship means that both spouses are accountable to each other - and are able to trust each other because they are "transparent" with each other.
The fact that you have not been "transparent" with your wife regarding giving money to "younger women" is certainly nothing to boast about, and may have hurt her more than you realize.
it isn't what our life was about...
I suspect the truth is that it isn't what YOUR life was about. Though you offer it as some kind of justification for Cain's actions (as well as your own), the truth is that we cause hurt and disappointment if we do not "honor" our spouse by being "transparent" in all that we do.
[Flame away - but what would be really interesting would be for you to run what I've said by your wife and include her response in your reply]