I would ask, “do they force you to share tips”?
Then I slip it into her pocket and tell her, not to let it get out of her pocket.
I hate that. I want to reward people for treating me well and giving me good service.
I’m with you in regard to the “shared” tips. If you’ve got busboys and barbacks, I understand the bar and wait staff tipping them, but not the pooled tipping that I’ve seen in some places. Thankfully I never waited tables or tended bar in any place with that policy.
When I worked there, I would have to take all tips and put them in a jar. At the end of shift, we would split the tips. There were no bus boys, we bussed our own tables. I would be flirty and nice, especially to middle aged women and very respectful to the middle aged guys. I was 17-18 at the time. I would get lots of tips, and the others, male an female wait staff, would just be kinda sullen and servile and not get many tips. Never again will I ‘share’ my earned money with a person that does not deserve it..............