Actually, I would guess that the majority of decent conservatives would have that reaction to your jaded views, and not my logical thought process.
Good luck with the cynicism thing. I'm beginning to think that you weren't telling the truth about your own marriage.
Just a hunch....
Knowing the facts, facing and understanding reality is not cynicism, my friend.
And yes, my wife and I are among the lucky ones. But then we both grew up in poor immigrant families so we had compatible cultural values when it came to work, finances, et al, - we both worked hard as kids, worked our way up in entry level positions, bought our home when I was 21 (she was 20), saved our money (e.g. no vacations), had 2 great kids, we both earned our undergraduate and graduate degrees parttime while working (she at home), became successful in the business world and are enjoying a great and prosperous retirement with some wonderful grandchildren.
Both our kids are equally successful and happily married.
We still like and love each other as much as we ever did. And as importantly, because we both worked hard to achieve what we did, we have great respect for each other
So why wouldn't we be happy?