[PapaBear3625]

I, OTOH, believe it’s security. A woman wants to feel secure in her life and in her relationship with her husband. Any sign that he is backsliding in his love and commitment to her is cause for her to fear, and that triggers those romantic fantasies that endanger the entire relationship with him.

It's more complicated than that. A woman wants to be secure, but if she feels her man is with her only because he can't do better, her feelings turn into contempt. To preserve the relationship, the wife needs to feel that she's got a good guy, and she better work at keeping him.

[savedbygrace]

I’m not so sure you’re making an opposing argument.

When a women begins to conclude she’s married to a contemptible man, she simultaneously loses that feeling of security.

So, I still say the main component of what women want is security.