Posted on 12/28/2010 7:18:34 AM PST by Kaslin
You must be drawn to that kind of woman. There are far more of us real women than Barbie dolls.
Well I greatly admire my guy and he loves me to death. So there ya go.
Can I humbly disagree? There are men who dearly love their wives in every way, are strong, have integrity - but it is not returned.
Perhaps it is because of missing the 3rd missing element Prager notes: admiration.
If a woman does not admire her man, his love means little, or nothing.
And I believe there are cases where he is not admired inspite of having both strength and integrity.
Of course, this is just my humble opinion - from living on this planet for 65 years.... :-)
Might as well add my two cents. A man who will hold me securely with one hand and fight off the world with the other. When I say the world, I am including the world of finances. I have always been a practical woman, diamonds and Benzes do nothing for me except make me question the motive of the giver. A vacation, on the other hand is great, to build dreams and memories together somewhere warm and sunny. I am very different, maybe it’s being ex- army, I do not like stuff. Stuff holds me back from moving on to the next great adventure.
I tend to believe it’s “Security”, although this dynamic is changing as women become more independent and have their own high paying jobs. They can now provide for themselves and don’t really need a man for survival.
I think this article explains my opinion better than I could (despite the source):
“From the early days of B.C., we had caveman and cavewoman - and naturally, the strongest and most capable caveman endured. The strongest caveman was resourceful and skilled as a hunter; as a result, he was able to capture and kill the finest dinosaurs and animal species. He enjoyed the finest of T-Rex sirloins, while the less powerful caveman was only able to pick berries and salad greens - he simply lacked the strength and power that was needed to survive in an untamed world. Now the cavewoman was attracted to the brute and brawn of a man - and simply put, ADT and Brink’s security were nonexistent back then, therefore the strength of a caveman meant alot - it equated to security - and security equated to survival. So who wins the girl 9 times out of 10? The big, strong masculine caveman. And I am assuming that out of 10 women, 1 is probably a vegetarian, so she was cool with Mr. Scrawny Caveman. But the majority of women at that time flocked to Mr. Strong Caveman. He was the man.
Of course, as the scrawny caveman lost out on luring the finest of women, over time he had to invent things like technology, sushi, cars, airplanes, books, stoves, etc. not only to balance the playing field, but to mitigate the potential threat of extinction. He did a great job of putting a monkey wrench in the Strong Caveman Domination theory, and to ensure that he would have staying power, he invented a nasty word to describe the strong man once dominated over the land: GOON. The scrawny caveman owned businesses and created major power moves in life, while the strong caveman had to work security jobs and earn meager pay to stay afloat. So what did the strong caveman do to compensate? He invented boxing, football, soccer and basketball, began to earn legions of fans around the world, he unionized, and now (today), he is “balling”.
So, I think that I get it. Woman need security, financially and emotionally. The brute strength of muscles and intelligence create a balance that should appeal to a woman.”
Read more: http://www.essence.com/relationships/men/are_rich_men_better_lovers_the_caveman_t.php#ixzz19QDpT8rs
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Wow. You have a VERY skewed view of women.
Sad.
Who said you had to be barefoot? That's what flip-flops are for.
/ducks
No, you can wear slippers /s
Who said you had to be barefoot? That's what flip-flops are for.
/ducks
A woman needs to be wanted.
A man wants to be needed.
Good response. Thanks from another mom :)
Excellent post. I feel the same way
Exactly
A woman wants unconditional love.
Hmmm... isn’t that how Christ loves the Church? There might be something to this Bible after all!
Exactly
You are not the norm when it comes to women these days. Thus, our opinions are based on the majority.
I don’t think the majority of women want a man they admire. They want a man all of their friends admire. Most Women (and too many men) frequently require external validation of all of their choices.
I, OTOH, believe it’s security. A woman wants to feel secure in her life and in her relationship with her husband.
Any sign that he is backsliding in his love and commitment to her is cause for her to fear, and that triggers those romantic fantasies that endanger the entire relationship with him.
Of course, his backsliding can be result of his own fantasies, which do not need to be romantic. They can simply be a fantasy about a life free of all those family responsibilities that pressure him all the time.
Men want to be appreciated and women want to be needed. It’s in our makeup. Sadly enough, women have been doing everything in their power to work against this nature.
In the past several decades men have been devalued and women taught that their needs come first. It’s not nice to fool Mother Nature.
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