Would you be open to a military REFERENDUM?, which is -— to allow ALL SOLDIERS in the Coast Guard, Airforce, Army, Navy and Marines to vote on this issue?
Military policy is not determined by referendum, so the question is moot.
There are no soldiers in the Coast Guard, Airforce, Navy, or Marine Corps.
(This level of familiarity with the military is to be expected from advocates of gays in the military.)
Actually, there is no way the current political leadership in the DOD would ever allow such a referendum to be conducted "secret ballot", as they know that they would not like the results.