Speaking as a nurse I can say that ER nurses are being directed by Joint Commission to assess for domestic violence. When I do an admission assessment, I am required to assess for signs of abuse. In my current position, most of my patients wouldn’t show such signs, but we still are required to do so. That is where the questions about feeling “in danger” come from.
When I was in nursing school, the school had some speakers in to talk about domestic violence. The gist of their spiel was, the men always go free, if the woman fights back she is always arrested, etc. So I go off on about a co-worker I had once who shot her drug crazed husband who was holding a knife to her child. The police that responded told her to go to her family out of town to avoid retaliation by in-laws. They said “we see no crime committed here by you”. Totally upset their apple cart of victimhood!
30 years ago my wife and I had foster children. One day at the park our 3 year old foster daughter walked in front of another child who was swinging. She got "kicked" in the mouth, she was bleeding profusely and I took her to the E.R.
She had bitten her tongue from the accident. The E.R. people wanted to question this child without me being present and I understood that but the problem was that every time I left her presence she did nothing but scream at the top of her little lungs, I'd come back by her side and hold her and she was ok, leave again and the non stop screaming started.
They never did get to question her without me being present. They finally gave up and accepted my explanation of what happened.