Posted on 04/09/2010 11:01:16 AM PDT by marthemaria
Edited on 04/09/2010 11:04:10 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
A U.S. mom sent her adopted seven-year-old Siberian son back to Russia alone because she did not want him anymore, it emerged Friday.
Artem Saveliev was taken from a grim Russian orphanage in September last year and given a new life in Tennessee.
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Sending him back “like that” was wrong. Tricking him, confusing him.
She should have gone about it differently.
I wouldn’t just put him on a plane either and I agree that it appears that action is illegal?
I watched an unbelievable segment on these Russian orphan children and it would scare the daylights out of you. One adoptive mother (USA) was brought up on charges of molestation/abuse of her adopted 3 or 4 year old because a wooden spoon handle had been shoved up his rectum repeatedly, then the feces were smeared all over the dryer and laundry room.
After a lengthy investigation, the woman’s story proved true: the child did it to himself. Along with other unmentionable and unfathomable things. I don’t know how to describe these seriously deranged kids other than warped and beyond rescue. It’s as if they have no feelings at all.
Though very sad, I am more frightened of their potential candidacy as the ideal terrorist protege.
Well, since Serbia isn’t in Russia, but Siberia is a province of Russia, I would assume it to be Siberia.
Hmm. More to this story than "psychologically damaged child", ya think?
Yep, it sounds like a woman whose clock was ticking, and she figured she had the gumption to adopt on her own. Having been a single mom for five years (before I met my amazing second husband), it is not easy, or preferrable! Little boys can be a handful, too, but to drop the kid off at an airport is beyond ridiculous. There must have been ways for her to find a foster home, or psych help if that was actually what was warranted (and as a nurse, chances are she could have easily found the resources from a doctor).
I have absolutely no sympathy for this woman if the case is actually the way it is being presented here. If it turns out that he actually threatened her in some way, I might have a glimmer of something approaching a tad of sympathy, but still, this was a ridiculous way to deal with a little boy who, presumably, you made a promise to love for the rest of his life.
I personally know of a couple who adopted 2 children from Russia and it is as you describe: irreparable psych damage and a danger to others. Frightening, actually. They fear for their life.
He’s 7. The automatic citizenship law went into affect in 2000. He’s a US citizen.
Serbia? No.
Siberia.
Child was from Siberia.
What about the agency she dealt with here in the States? did she contact them and discuss her concerns?
After we adopted our daughter, I had to fill out evaluation reports every SIX months for the first three years. I find it difficult to believe there was no one here for her to turn to for advice or help. Putting a 7yr old on a plane to Moscow because you don’t want him anymore seems beyond cruel.
Hmm, not so sure that it is that hard to get psych evals for kids who (presumably) go to public schools. I used to work in them, and they work together pretty quickly to try and “test” the heck out of kids who have any sort of deviation from the norm. Chances are that a seven year old who puts the fear of God into an adult woman is not just acting like a kook at home. JMHO.
Seriously. Single girl (living with grandma?) wants a kid, then six months later, finds out it isn’t all birthday parties and pony rides, so she changes her mind?
"As he is a Russian national, I am returning him to your guardianship and would like the adoption disannulled."
Russian children's rights commissioner Pavel Astakhov slammed the mother, who is understood to be a single parent, and called for a ban on all adoptions to America in the light of the case...."
Let them ban adoptions to America.
I did a google search and some hits list the adoptive mother as 34, other sites 26 years old. Regardless...I’m sure there’s a better way to handle this situation.
Found this link and it lists more info:
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/world/tennessee-family-adopts-russian-boy-7-then-sends-him-back/article1529229/
Startling article here from 2007 - it's hard to read.....
Russia's Halt on Foreign Adoptions -
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=9810880
"Sergei Koloskov, head of the Down Syndrome Society, says that contrary to government figures, the number of orphans in Russia is growing — and overloading the state's orphanage system.
"Healthy babies are lying in hospital beds all day as if they were sick, sometimes for months or longer," Koloskov says. "They're completely ignored. No one plays with them or provides any kind of stimulation. That happens because orphanages where they're supposed to go after birth are full."
Experts say that the lack of attention at an early age seriously harms a child's development. Elena Olshanskaya started a group of volunteers to help children in hospitals after noticing abandoned babies in rooms at the hospital where she gave birth.
"I was stunned," she says. "They were completely alone. They were fed several times a day and that was it. After a while, they just stop crying."
Last winter, another patient in a central Russian hospital noticed a room of abandoned babies with their mouths taped shut to stop them from crying. Her cell phone video shocked the country when it was played on national television. Reports of babies tied down in their cots are common. Many believe that's because hospital staff are seriously overworked.
Boris Altshuler of the Child's Right group says it's often immediately clear to visitors that abandoned babies are left to "rot alive."
Both were messed up emotionally but the oldest (7) was just plain evil!
They had a pet baby pheasant and he doused it with gas and lit it on fire. He pissed in every gas tank of all the equipment on the farm. He raped several little girls that were under 5 years old.
Did I mention that he was only 7?!!
Sorry, the evil little bastard should have been knocked in the head and tossed in a hole. They sent him back to state custody.
Sounds like it may be a case of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Not unheard of for children living (if you can call it that) in some horrid institutions.
Most children with Reactive Attachment Disorder have had severe problems or disruptions in their early relationships. Many have been physically or emotionally abused or neglected. Some have experienced inadequate care in an institutional setting or other out-of-home placement (for example a hospital, residential program, foster care or orphanage). Others have had multiple or traumatic losses or changes in their primary caregiver.
They often show nearly a complete lack of ability to be genuinely affectionate with others. They typically fail to develop a conscience and do not learn to trust. They do not allow people to be in control of them due to this trust issue. This damage is done by being abused or physically or emotionally separated from one primary caregiver during the first 3 years of life. “If a child is not attached-does not form a loving bond with the mother-he does not develop an attachment to the rest of mankind. The unattached child literally does not have a stake in humanity” (Magid & McKelvey 1988) They do not think and feel like a normal person. “At the core of the unattached is a deep-seated rage, far beyond normal anger. This rage is suppressed in their psyche.
“Now we all have some degree of rage, but the rage of psychopaths is that born of unfulfilled needs as infants. Incomprehensible pain is forever locked In their souls, because of the abandonment they felt as infants.” (Magid & McKelvey 1988) “There is an inability to love or feel guilty. There is no conscience. Their inability to enter into any relationship makes treatment or even education impossible.” (Bowlby 1955)
It’s always a very sad situation under the best of circumstances and, from what I’ve read, it is very, very difficult to deal with these children. I’m not speaking from personal experience but I’ve researched developmental problems for other reasons and this disorder it about the saddest/worst/usually pretty hopeless one that I’ve come across.
There definitely should have been a different way she handled this; ‘re-abandoning’ a child at the age of 7 will compound his difficulties (to say the least). I’m not even attempting to make an excuse for her actions. There are easily hundreds of choices she could have/should have made differently.....
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