The answer to that question is meant to be a personal one. It is one that I thought would help you with your own question because it helped me on this. I have no desire to argue it with you, only to give you what I found to be one of many helpful tools when I struggled with various abortion questions including the big one of imposing abortion restrictions on others.
I could share with you my changes on the issue over time but they would not be relevant to your own work on it.
thanks for the reply and please accept my apologies. I have seen ppl get blasted for having differing opinions. I do not ever want to go there.
As for me, personally, I don’t know. I would probably chose when I realized that the baby would not live long and would suffer. Then I would probably hate myself for it. But if I carried to term knowing that the baby would suffer before dying, I would hate myself for that too.
My grandson spent almost 6 week in PICU, twice on life support. While on life support he was on morphine. Yet, he still pulled away when the incompetent jr doctor tried to get a cannula into the vein he had just collapsed. They did many things to hurt that baby, due to their negligence and incompetence (I have a thread on the whole thing) ... and sitting there, wondering if he was in pain, if it would be long term pain, if he would recover or suffer before dying... really made me ponder a lot of things.
Watching other mothers ... one in particular, whose child had to have both legs, one arms and the finger on the remaining hand amputated, brain damage and organ failure... the boy wase hooked up to all sorts of things and kept on high level of pain meds the whole time I was there. I did not dare ask her, but I did wonder if she knew this would be the outcome would she still carry and birth. If, God forbid, I was in a position where I knew that carrying to term would result in that kind of pain and suffering... I don’t know what i would do. But I don’t know that I can see this type of thing the same as abortion as birth control.
Dunno, I just struggle with that.