You’re not my family, but several members of my family have risked their lives for you. Their risks were not minimal by any standard. Now please quit trying to minimize the risks our heroes take, just so you can pretend to make your point. Trample someone other than our military personnel to “justify” your self-serving cowardice.
When a guy abandons his family by his reckless and risky choices, made irresponsibly and leaves his family (his wife-to-be and his son) to the welfare of others — he has failed his family... that’s as plain as it gets...