This isn’t scientific or anything, but during my college years I worked in a restaurant in a mall. We had a plethora of gay guys working there because the manager was a homosexual.
Every gay guy I ever got to know while working there told me he had been molested.
I kid you not.
Every gay guy I ever got to know while working there told me he had been molested.
100 percent true! It is a shame which is why I am more tolerant of them than most. They were dealt a crappy deal.
I know of one gay guy for certain who was molested as child. I went to high school with him. His gay uncle molested him. This is one case where I know that he had normal interests in girls up until that point. I feel badly for him. He was sick physically the last time I saw him, he has an intestinal disease related to his lifestyle. That said there are numerous studies which show at a minimum that homosexual men report being sexually abused as children at a rate far greater than heterosexual men. Why this has been ignored as a probable explanation for many typical issues that are manifest to a very large degree in gay men such as depression, suicide, promiscuity, risky sexual behavior,chronic need for constant need for approval and appreciation, molestation, self mutilation, drug abuse etc.
I believe the politics around this issue has made it very difficult for people who need help to get it effectively. Instead they are often times being forced into a life of perpetual denial even that the abuse they faced was even wrong. This is dangerous. There is already a more than tactic approval of predatory sexual practices in mainstream gay literature. The recent case of Frank Lombard’s reading list highlighted as much.
For a man to desire another man in that way is so odd, it would take a traumatic realignment. There’s no other way a guy could be attracted to a guy.