You have been putting in a lot of time for a long time posting this thread, and awarding toasters. Now you will get a much deserved rest, from the computer. But taking care of your father and learning what to do with the equipment they furnished to take care of him is no doubt quite demanding. Thank you for the updates on his condition. G-d be with you.
And please show up on Free Republic as often as you can.
Thankfully when the benefit agency did a check on his pension and other disability allowances we only have to pay a small amount each week for his care and the stoma items are classed as medical so is entitled to these free.