“It’s just amazing what used to happen when the hat got dropped, and what doesn’t over time. Playing by one set of rules for a couple of years until you snag the guy, then starting to play by a different set after that is not right.”
That’s not my experience, so I wouldn’t know.
I’ve heard women say the same thing in reverse.
When that topic comes up, I’m sure you’ll have lots to say. For now I’ll stick with the topic here.