A couple has to tell each other what they want and what their expectations are. People have this fantasy that their partner knows what to give them without having to be asked and they get hurt when the other person doesn't know. People can't read minds so tell each other what you need. It may not look romantic but it can save you from being hurt and looking downright stupid. And it can only improve your love life and your marriage.
"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus