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Mood may be important to individuals but two people in a relationship or a marriage realize they have to give each other what they want to be happy. A woman who denies a man sex will not have a good husband but a resentful and sullen roommate. For a man a woman who is not demonstrating her interest in him in the most elemental way possible is merely a good friend not someone he's in love with. The fact of sex to human nature is ineluctable but we rarely give much to thought to why it gives satisfaction to a man that he can't be given in any other way. And that's more than physical release since sex is usually a man's way into expressing for a woman what he can't tell her in words. The wise woman will understand what it is when he is having sex with her.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus

[DoughtyOne]

I know where you are coming from. I pretty much agree. I do think the occasional mood excuse is reasoned. I don’t think it should be more than very occasional, because otherwise the guy does get the message that his needs aren’t very important. He ultimately gets the message that he isn’t valued by his mate. That realization is destructive to man’s ego, and his sense of well being.

The mood thing is so hard for guys to understand. Frankly, there simply isn’t a mood excuse in my book for me. The act of making love is the ultimate rescue from being down. If my mood sucks, this is the very thing that can turn that around.

That’s why men (who I think pretty much agree with my take here), simply cannot fathom a mood excuse. And frankly, the more than occasional mood excuse is a clear signal that something is fundamentally wrong with the woman’s outlook.

Now she may have a valid reason for that outlook, but if she does, then she should come clean with the man and explain what is causing the mood. If he is displeasing her in some way, she must tell him, or get back to loving him fully.