[TalonDJ]

What I’m arguing with is this notion that women should drop everything and “take one for the team” Where is the romance in that?

Well you are right that this is suboptimal. But taking the situation from the woman's perspective when he is being making advances... There are three options.
1)Say no: The article was all about this option
2)Take one for the team: Sure it is not optional, but is it BETTER than option one?
3)Work on her own mood and get where she needs to be and / or get him to slow down while she works on getting in the mood.

Clearly number three is optimal. Better still if she was already in the mood or he could get her in one... (but even that requires her attitude to be in the right place). But BOTh options 2 and 3 involve the basic premise of the story which is to not turn him down. And both 2 and 3 are better for the relationship than flat turning him down.

[Scotswife]

so I guess it comes down to - how often is she opting for choice #2?

Because if the answer is “too often” - then somebody hasn’t taken the time to understand how to get a female response going.

[Wildbill22]

Agreed. I think in order to avoid a “war of the sexes” from erupting it is important to focus on the universal truths;
-frustration is bad, for either side.
-Any relationship requires effort put into the relationship. A marriage certificate is not the finish line, but the starting point.
-On either side, if you care about the relationship, his or her happiness is paramount to your happiness.
-Too many relationships are disposed of because of any of the above being neglected.