Posted on 12/23/2008 12:09:15 AM PST by goldstategop
well said.
It is simple things like that put a woman in the mood.
I guess I am in that low segment.... but the mood still stikes me from time to time, which the wife is glad to see.
She has expressed some of the articles points due to the lack of "action" on my behalf.
“It draws me incredible closer, and having read some of the posts here, it sounds as if it drives some people apart just thinking about it.”
Well - here is one happy female freeper.
But you have to recognize the basic physical differences between men and women.
Women just aren’t ready at the drop of a hat, and it is the smart man who recognizes that.
I read the article. I was commenting on the comments.
Mr. Prager annoys me on a number of topics, so I’m leaving the article alone; his writing it doesn’t make it wrong.
So much to agree with here. Thank you for posting.
Idle hands are the devil’s workshop. If you take sex out of the marriage, something else takes its place.
Sorry, I understand men to be every bit as human, intelligent, spiritual, and civilized as women. Our minds are what separate us from the animals.
Moreover, as a believer, I understand us all to be made in the image of G_d. Faithfulness and self-control are more a part of our nature than wantonness.
The illustration that there is a sub-culture from Mexico that “needs” sex more often than the rest of the nation or from men in the US, is illustrative of the role that cultural conditioning plays.
6. Then there’s the woman who knows that if her husband truly wanted sex, he’d have taken out the trash and helped with the dishes.
One of my friends had the best comeback. “Ok I’ll quit my job to help you do your job”. Ironically, he wasn’t going to do it because he was running around with a woman at work. He left his wife and married the woman at work. You aren’t going to believe what happened then. Not in a million years. He found out the new wife was running around with a married man at work. The nerve of her.
Agreed, not a good opening line. Style is everything, but it is what it is.
Agreed, talking can be great foreplay - and more intimate, sometimes, than sex. Even in marriage.
Married nearly 35 years.
I’m with Tax-chick.
It isn’t that the entire article is worthless - it has its good points.
But he loses me when he states that women should be having sex even when they aren’t in the mood.
I would agree that a woman-not-in-the-mood should consider engaging in activities that would “get” her in the mood.
I would not agree she should just march into the bedroom and “get it over with”.
Because then you’ve got an entirely different problem on your hands.
Hon, is that you?
But seriously, I do these things with my wife also.
Of course, the kids were always, "Ewwww, DAAAAD!", but it didn't matter.
My wife can be washing dishes at the sink and I'll come up behind her and give her a big hug and then just walk away with an, "I love you".
I always give her a kiss and a, "Love you", when leaving the house. You never know, it could be the last time you see each other in this life.
The last thing she hears from my lips before we sleep is an, "I love you". If I die in my sleep that's the words I want her to hear from me last.
I DO hold her hand in public. People even remark on it. "Are you two newlyweds?"
All in all, if you pay attention to each other, express your love for each other openly, and WORK to make the marriage a happy, healthy, loving marriage - all is well.
“Now she may have a valid reason for that outlook, but if she does, then she should come clean with the man and explain what is causing the mood. If he is displeasing her in some way, she must tell him, or get back to loving him fully.”
OK - let me put it this way.
Think of a time at work where it’s super-hectic, and you’ve got a huge “to-do” list running in your head.
You don’t have enough time to get it all done, and everything on your list is important.
In the middle of the craziness - a buddy stops by your office, sits down, and wants to visit.
Your laundry list is still running in your head - you aren’t into the conversation with your buddy because your mind is elsewhere.
It isn’t that you don’t like your buddy, or even that talking to him isn’t important to you.
Your buddy thinks you’re giving him the could shoulder and leaves your office feeling slighted.
It may help to realize that for the most part, men are aroused (visually) differently than women (emotionally), hence the "sudden urges". If women expect men to be aroused emotionally, same as they, they're searching for something that's not there.
Can my wife be your new best friend? There is money in it for you, if you want.
There are plenty of urologists in the phone book.
“Animals? Well that is a little more than degrading regarding men’s nature, but men are more in touch with their animal nature, “
women have a “nature” too, and it is the smart man who understands the female response - and that guy isn’t going to be the one complaining about not gettin’ any.
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