It would take a lot of courage for a woman to admit that she had an abortion. In our neighborhood, one woman admitted that she had an abortion when she got pregnant at 16. I’m guessing she’s around 50 now, so this would have been more or less 35 years ago. The neighborhood blew up, with a strongly Catholic woman breaking off their friendship after the admission and making all sorts of accusations that she was a “bad person.” Then another woman had a miscarriage and the Catholics in the neighborhood whispered that it was really an abortion and turned against her, so there was more hard feeling, more accusation, more alienation.
The lack of forgiveness of these suffering women here somewhat delayed my acceptance of the Catholic faith. In any case I can’t imagine anyone admitting such a thing if she is going to encounter this level of opprobium.
There are ugly folks everywhere, in every religion. You just happened to know some who called themselves Catholic. I don't know of any Catholics who would have treated those women in that way.