Posted on 08/08/2008 6:31:27 PM PDT by ricks_place
ABC News' Jennifer Parker reports: Elizabeth Edwards, the wife of former Sen. John Edwards has reacted to the news of her husband's affair, posting a blog titled "Today" on the liberal Daily Kos website and asking for privacy for her family.
In the blog, Elizabeth Edwards says her husband told her about the affair in 2006 and they worked through it. "This was our private matter," she writes.
She heaps blame on the news media for prying into her family's life, writing, "the toll on our family of news helicopters over our house and reporters in our driveway is yet unknown."
She disputes the National Enquirer allegations that her husband fathered a child outside of their marriage.
The Elizabeth Edwards blog on Daily Kos reads: "Our family has been through a lot. Some caused by nature, some caused by human weakness, and some – most recently – caused by the desire for sensationalism and profit without any regard for the human consequences. None of these has been easy. But we have stood with one another through them all. Although John believes he should stand alone and take the consequences of his action now, when the door closes behind him, he has his family waiting for him.
"John made a terrible mistake in 2006. The fact that it is a mistake that many others have made before him did not make it any easier for me to hear when he told me what he had done. But he did tell me. And we began a long and painful process in 2006, a process oddly made somewhat easier with my diagnosis in March of 2007.
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So I take it you gave him permission to continue the affair up to as recently as a few weeks ago, right? You're a swell wife, Liz!
Ahh, "The b*tch set me up!" excuse.
I feel too many men and women throw marriages away because of infidelity or other relationship issues and are not prepared to work through it.
Of course if the infidelity/or other problems continues then this is different but I find the modern attitude of one mistake and out hard to take also the attitude that a women who continues to live with her husband who has had an affair or done other things disrespecting herself and her gender and shows weakness on her behalf - maybe sometimes this is true but in many cases this is simply not the full story.
Somehow I see it sometimes as strength because she may well have had to fight like crazy to keep him because despite his floars she loves him, he may well have wanted to go but she fought and fought and showed him how deep her love and commitment was that he knew whatever he may feel about her at present or the infatuation and supposed love for his mistress he will never get that loyalty and love elsewhere.
She may well have to continue to fight and show immense strength whilst emotionally inside being in pieces. On the outside to keep her man she has to be his best friend, wife, and lover to him without bitterness and rancor, yes let him know she is hurt and will remain so deep inside for sometime but move on from there and not bring it up every 5 mintues because that would only eventually lead to him wanting out if that continued.
Far from weakness the wife or girlfriend that wants her husband/partner to stay after such incidents IMHO is a strong women who earns my respect not my criticism.
Indeed it does especially if she truly loves him and wants him to remain with her and is prepared to fight for this to happen, not only is she fighting the cancer but she is fighting for her marriage.
I take a different view if they truly cared for that person and had been bought up to respect marriage then why not show the example of how to overcome this this IMHO is not being a flagrant enabler as you put it.
If it continues over the years then yes I think then the women does need to seriously consider ending the marriage however hard it may be especially if she truly loves him.
Of course there are marriages that are purely power marriages and no more and in this case neither party cares that much about the odd affair here and there but somehow I do not see that this is the case of the Edwards marriage. More likely this is something to do with fear on John Edwards part, fear of growing old, of Elizabeth dying and he being on his own. In some ways though I cannot stand the man and lot of what he believes a little part of me feels sorry for him and large part for her even though in many ways she is not the type of person I would warm to.
In July of ‘07, they renewed their vows to each other...
I wonder if they went to Wendy’s last week to ‘celebrate’ their 31st anniversary?
It's actually a testimony to the Grace of God. I had no strength of my own, but what I had, was His strength. I weighed 95 pounds, and everybody thought I was going to die. I was very, very sick, but I prayed a lot and I quoted the Word back to God, reminding Him of His promises. I refused to believe that any doctor could tell me that I was going to die. That's up to God. I believe I am alive today because I stood on the Word and God honored His Word. God does not lie, and when He says something, He means it. There's so much power in His Word. Ours for tapping into. I did, and I thank Him every day for giving me back my life.
Though IMHO it does not mean if Elizabeth Edwards continues to remain with him that she is weak or an enabler. There are many reasons even in 2008 why couples stay together.
Guilt, great love by one of the partnership, money, position, children, place in society. Who are we to judge and say this is wrong.
To stay often take as much if not more courage than to break from the marriage.
Well, Liz, just think how unbearable the media would have been had John been a Republican.
I often wonder if the Kopechne parents were worried about other facts coming out about their daughter and this lead them to behave as they did not wanting her reputation to be tarnished are there are many that still to this day feel that she was not unfortunate and was simply being offered a lift home afer work.
I agree but I wonder if for her though it was real
Really? That's a surprise to me. I just thought mine was a despicable cad. LOL So much for "in sickness and in health." I'm sure God isn't happy with people who do that. Did you see women do this to their sick husbands, or did they stand by their man?
That was my understanding as well
I guess Ann was wrong on that one.
I agree Elizabeth Edwards does deserve better but maybe she does not want better and if this is so then I respect her decision and pray that she will be able to keep him. As I suspect from reading and hearing more he may well still be carrying the affair on so to keep him she will have fight and fight dirty.
Amen
Maybe she threatened suicide and he was terrified that the police would find a note pointing the finger at him so rushed over there.
That accounts for one visit but what about the second unless they were blackmail pay outs if he did truly end the affair in 2006.
Could well be blackmail pay outs if one believes the affair is over
There is much we still do not understand about cancer and other such illnesses.
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