"I've had better!"
Posted on 07/08/2008 7:50:56 AM PDT by flowerplough
"Sometimes, a term of endearment can be anything but endearing.
"I had this manager who … started referring to me as 'honey,'" recalls May Snowden, former chief diversity officer for both Starbucks and Eastman Kodak Co. (one of DiversityInc's 25 Noteworthy Companies), who is now a consultant for Creative Wealth Alliance. "[It was] when I took my first director position. I was in a male-dominated job in the telecommunications industry and I did not want to embarrass him in front of his peers, so I invited him to my office and indicated that 'I won't call you sweetie if you won't call me honey.' We had that little conversation and he stopped. He was really embarrassed, [and because] he calls his wife, his daughters and other women 'honey', he did not even think about it."
"We all come to the table with biases and histories and upbringings in life that give us a perspective that may have 20, 30 years behind it," says Sherry Nolan, vice president of diversity and organizational capabilities at Pepsi Bottling Group..."
(The List:
Any kind of sexual comment
"You don't really want that promotion. You'll never see your kids."
"You'll get the job because you're a woman" or "You must be the token woman"
"What's the matter, is it that time of the month?"
"You're very attractive [or pretty, or beautiful, etc.]"
"You look great for your age" or "Do you use Botox?"
"You do that so well … for a girl."
"When are you due?")
(Excerpt) Read more at diversityinc.com ...
“Who’s your baby’s daddy?”
“....yet at work she often got crappy assignments because other women would say “I can’t do it because my daughter has her dance recital”...or...”I can’t do it because my son has his swim meet”....I think that sometimes they were just using the kid to get out of stuff....has anybody else experianced this?”
Yes. I’ve had to work more holidays because I’m single and “don’t have a family”. What really sucks is that I often have family visiting from far away when this happens.
If you look where the rubber hits the road, there isn't any room for feel-good hires. Check out Sales or IT. Places where, if there's something wrong, the entire company suffers.
I've never heard the phrase "Our sales numbers are down, but look how diverse our department is!" People that are in the places that matter, (not always but largely) are there because they can do the job, not because they allow HR to make a check in some box on a form. If they're "diversity", then that's fine, but what matters is getting it done.
That's my unsolicited $0.02. Flame away.
“Could I speak to the Boss”
“What’s the matter, is it that time of the month?”
That’d be good name for a magazine...”PMS Monthly”
I thought the B stood for something else.
This feminist, anti-male rhetoric is really getting boring. I have had plenty of female bosses who are more sexist than any man I’ve worked for.
How about “Gee, that pants suit makes your ass look fat!”
You don’t need a company car, you can just use your broom.
My husband was the manager and had an employee call him "kiddo" all the time. He thought it was hysterical. She was like his assistant and old enough to be his mother.
A real woman would iron the shirt ... while the man was still wearing it.
I don’t think it is clear that she was the inferior. She was a “director”and he was a “manager.” Of note is the fact that she called him into her office. I could be wrong, but it seems to me that the underling does not call the boss into their office. Also, the anecdote may or may not have beeen the way it actually went down. The writer has the power to recollect the events in a 20/20 hindsight, sanitized for public consumption. Chances are that she actually made a scene about it, and it didn’t go down pretty, so when she’s retelling the story, she had to clear herself of any fault. In fact, I would bet she bitched so loud that she got herself appointed as Diversity Officer to avoid a lawsuit.
Hmmm. Two companies on the rocks.
I think when you start appointing "diversity officers" is right about the time you start breathing your own helium. You think have time for such non-productive thinking because you don't have to focus on customers anymore. After all, you have the market nailed till the end of time. Not.
"I've had better!"
Kind of says it all.
Got any fries with that shake?
This one doesn't work all that well but sure as hell schocks em.
a classic....
Generally, I like strange men calling me honey, LOL.
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