I’m sorry for the pain in your life that your mother caused you. Actually, this article is exactly NOT for perfect people at all. The guy is saying that men really DO care about the “inside” — the “real you” — and how you make them feel about themselves — more then they care about your dress size. I think underneath the humor, it’s about unconditional love that is possible between a man and a woman — as long as everyone understands that we are different, and don’t try to remake the other sex into something they were never meant to be.
I’ve been reunited this last year with my one and only love from 25+ years ago, and we are back together (it’s a long, miracle story). After writing for awhile, I told him I’ve changed a bit physically — put on weight since he knew me years before. He very patiently sighed over the phone, and said, “Baby, do you really think i care about that? Do I care that you’ve changed? I’ve changed too! We’re both older, and I am just grateful that we have another chance to love each other, and to be back in each other’s lives again!” He shows me this every day— now that he has actually seen me in person again. He looks at me and loves on me exactly the way he did when i was 19 years old — and took up less space than I do now. :-)
Take heart. They’re out there. We just have to keep it real ourselves.
Thank you. That’s very kind.
I disagree. It speaks nothing of the guy except "How to please his needs & wants."
I'm not saying that doing so is bad, except when its required by force or coercion.
Love must be based on . . .well, Love. Done because one wants to not because God or anyone else requires it.
ANd the recipient must not be a "taking" a$$hole. He must give in return and the article does not mention anything that the 1950s man should be providing to his 1950s wife.
Which is why many women are absolutely offended by the article, and why NOW got a foot-hold in the 1970s.