[Dianna]

There are no guarantees any mother gets to live long enough to see her baby out of diapers, mine did not.

Of course there are no guarantees. However, would you DELIBERATELY create a situation where is was much more likely that your children would have to grow up without you?

I think that is selfish.

[elizabetty]

Also, my paternal grandmother is 90 and only recently saw her last foster child graduate high school.