Don’t waste you time trying to discuss facts with these people. They don’t want facts, they want to appear to be holier than anyone else. I hope when their time comes, they have people as compassionate as you there for them.
I think a lot of them just have a hard time accepting there’s only one way out of here, any form of comprehending that death is inevitable seems to scare them. I’ve seen death in the hospital with the beeping machinery and the crash carts and the harsh lighting, and I’ve seen death in the hospice with the quiet music and the comfortable seating (I know that sounds terribly superficial, but when you’ve done a couple months with a dieing relative you really learn to hate hospital chairs, and it was one of the first things I noticed in the hospice), while neither was what I’d call a pleasant experience if I have to do it again I’m voting for the quiet dignified path it’s a lot less scarring. The next few weeks with the funeral prep and the distribution of belongings are bad enough, might as well arrive there peacefully.