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It might be interesting to find out which of the posters are parents to just daughters; daughters and sons; or just sons.

Coming from a large family, I have had a unique opportunity to see differences in our views based on whom we parent.

As siblings from a "sons & daughters" family one might think that we would all have similar views; but we seem to have changed those views since we've become parents.

Those who raised "sons only" view these things entirely differently from those who have raised "daughters only" who view these things entirely differently from those who have raised "daughter and sons," "daughters and son," or "son and daughter."

It's been interesting!

I have six children - two boys, four girls.

When my oldest was seventeen, he was constantly jiving about his need to be "treated like a man".

One night, his GFs father came uninvited to my home for the purpose of dragging my son outside to treat him like a man by kicking his ass (he had forbidden his daughter to date my son).

I stood between them, acting like an (embarrassed) man, and eventually the GFs dad left without the satisfaction of kicking my son's ass.

In the aftermath, my son was crying his eyes out, and I got to ask the magic teenaged boy question, "OK, son, how does it feel to be treated like a man?"

We have three sons and one daughter. The older two boys got a real lesson in early sexual activity when one of our nephews got married at the age of 18; he is 8 months older than our #1 son. When we told them that he'd gotten married, they asked why, since they knew how old he was. We then told them it was because he'd gotten his girlfriend pregnant. We reminded them that if they engaged in the activity, they needed to be responsible for the outcome, and do the right thing by the girl and their baby. We also pointed out just how much that would limit both their futures and the future of the baby, so it was easier all around not to get into the situation to begin with!

We reminded them that when they turned 18, they were on their own and responsible for their own actions. The point was well taken.

Our daughter has learned that lesson well, too, and I believe, will handle herself well. She's off to college now, a sophomore. But she chose a small Catholic university that doesn't have co-ed dorms, and doesn't encourage a whole lot of hanging out in the dorm rooms between male and female students. The school's emphasis is RESPECT for each individual, and she likes the fact that both the young men and the young women take that idea to heart.

It might be interesting to find out which of the posters are parents to just daughters; daughters and sons; or just sons.

I would like to find out which of the posters had sex before they were 18 .Are they hypocrites and condemning the boy to something that they did or are they still mad that they didn't get any