Yippee, a post that is actually helpful, LOL! He says he wants to exercise, like, “Yeah, I should really ride my bike sometime...” but it seems he doesn’t have the gumption to ACT on his good intentions. I’ve wondered if his testosterone is low.
His dad had triple bypass surgery. His cholesterol is high. He was in the obese category, but after biking last summer he lost 25 lbs and is now in the overweight category. No doubt I will pay a price for his inaction. It’s hard to understand how a man can let his health go, knowing he might make his wife a widow, or worry her terribly.
With a GF he’d be motivated to exercise and spruce himself up, and it wouldn’t take all that long before he realized that he’s not 20 or 30 anymore, and he really does need to take care of himself.
And not all that long after that he’d come to the conclusion that he ain’t a kid anymore, and can’t keep up with (or even understand) a 20 something...
He’ll be fine.
Look at my posts, and the many other posts by men who have gone through these years.
It’s not called a mid-life crisis for nothing.
But men do reach a point where they take serious stock of things they need to do.
And you husband will do the same. He will see what his own father went through and learn from that. He will see others who managed to improve their health, and he will take charge.
My advice: You get a bike, too. Do not set unrealistic goals, but the two of you: start out biking 3 times a week. For just 30 minutes.
That’s all. Later... add in more time on the bikes. But for now... both of you go bike riding.
Have you told him you don’t want to be alone? Sometimes it takes a sledgehammer to the head to get a mans attention.