So if you invited me in your house and I raped your wife, you can only blame yourself. ;)==
No no no:). It is very inprecise metaphor.
Better this: you helped the criminal to take my house thinking that “smart” move will spare your house but the criminal got stronger and took your house too. Now you blame me instead of that criminal since he came to you from my house which he took first, conviniently ommiting that you helped him against me in first place.
You and I both know that invited or not, Soviets would have taken Estonia anyway. The absence of the invitation did not stop them from invading Finland did it?