Posted on 04/19/2007 2:41:41 PM PDT by alcenoo
“My daughter had a Korean girl in her class in grade school who was very shy and would not talk to anyone and wanted to be by herself. She is attending an Ivy league college, apparently doing well”.
Yeah, but did she torch her dorm room?
No, nor did she anything else nasty. Just would not talk. Got good grades. The teacher reported it to child welfare, tried to blame the parents. Some thought that was uncalled for since the girl cause no problems, and the girl was not bullied.
Bullies tend to go for weak targets; When one fights back, they look for easier targets. One may get bloody standing up to one, but the bully typically doesn't want to be bothered when there are easier targets.
But why do you have the values you have? I’ve known people raised in the same families with different values. I’m sure it’s a combo of things.
susie
And so was I. Where is their argument? That is the problem with todays youth they are not allowed to feel what is feels like to lose. I have seen at childrens sporting events no one is a loser everybody is special and deserved a trophy and a pat on the back.
I guess it is my christian upbringing that helps. The whole “love your neighbor as yourself” thing falls inline with the equal force doctrine. I try to treat others as I would be treated. If I was the aggressor, I would fully expect someone to defend themselves. Also the fact that love always protects, as outlined in I Corinthians Chapter 13, shows that I have an obligation to protect myself if I am to love myself. I have to love myself first to then be able to apply it to my neighbor. Part of the malfunction is people don’t even love themselves.
Thank you.
I want my kids to be survivors, as do all conservatives (I have serious doubts that Dhimmis do though).
I agree with you that parents not teaching their kids empathy is inexcusable. Frankly, I think that the boomers as a whole have done a terrible job raising their kids. I think that most of my contemporaries are spoiled brats with little empathy for others.
Certainly that’s the way it was if grown-ups fail in education.
Oh boy, here we go!
“Certainly that’s the way it was if grown-ups fail in education.”
No.
Thats the way human beings are.
Kids can be cruel. There is nothing grown ups can do to stop it. Bullying, violence.. Yes, that can be kept under control. Teasing? Oh please. Shall we have an adult following every child at all times around?
Getting called names and teasing each other is part of growing up. It’s just life.
boo-freekin’-hoo.”
I am so sick of hearing about the “results” of kids who are picked on in school.
We were ALL picked on in school in some fashion or other. We dealt with it. If it was really physical, with a much larger kid picking on a much smaller kid, our parents got into the action and talks with the parents of the offenders usually stopped the problem. Hell, even I had a bloddy nose from a schoolyard fight- and I am a female. I fought back. It was the last time that person tried to pick on me. Today, the perps have more rights than the victims. One cannot protect their property nor their family. Whoever wants to behave the most like “MAD MAX” is the winner.
The last 2 generations of sissies we have raised in the USA are in for a shock. Their employers aren’t going to be so full of strokes and fuzzy feelings. These woooossies need to find their big girl panites, put them on, keep them on, and GET A LIFE!!!!
I agree with your assessment. And, the kids the boomers raised are not doing any better. There are certainly some outstanding parents out there, but they are vastly outnumbered.
susie
Most people can learn to be kind and empathetic, and in fact they can learn to like helping those who need it. But it takes role models and adults who are willing to step in and teach them. And no, I'm not a bleeding heart liberal. But I understand what it takes to live in a civil society, and we are not teaching our kids how to do it, for the most part.
susie
Being small for my age, academically gifted, and athletically cursed, made me a major target for bullies.
I fantasized about whoopin some a$$, but that was about it.
That's not true. Anti-bully programs, if they exist at all, are voluntary, not mandatory in schools. Most schools did nothing. As long as bullying fits someone's agenda, and it usually does, it will continue.
You are an unsung hero. Believe it or not, you did make a difference in this boy's life, because you showed that somebody really cared when it mattered most.
NO. And you were actually pretty lucky. They could have got you arrested on some bogus charge, called social services on you, or figured out a way to railroad your daughter out because you stood up for her rights. It happens to parents in Delaware, all the time.
As long as school administrators believe themselves to be above the law and abuse their power on parents and their children, school shootings will continue.
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