well for one thing, the thread is about rudy and that IS the case here, it is documented that he was cheating on the children's mother with judith nathan. like it or not, she will be tarred with that brush.
As it should be.
i agree. i'm sorry, but if someone willingly gets involved with a divorced individual, either by causing the divorce, or just eventually marrying someone who has children, they need to realize that they ARE going to be the stepparent and that there will be all sorts of issues they will have to deal with. You assume the risk if that is the path you choose.