Posted on 02/15/2007 10:19:33 AM PST by qam1
A successful marriage takes compromise, but her generation was raised to believe it is a dirty word. Marriage is about working as a team, but they were raised to think in terms of "I." Marriage is about consistency and companionship. Gen Xers crave change and value their independence.
Absolute BS. My generation has kept it's marriages intact far longer than my parents generation did. This is garbage.
Do you mean that you want to get what he was dosing his wife with?
You're having a great time on this one, ain't cha? :)
"So again... men haven't changed. Women have."
You don't know what the term 'Shotgun Wedding' means? They were for the males who took advantage of a girl and didn't bother to marry her--even after the fact--until her DADDY showed up with a shotgun and the Justice of the Peace, to make sure she and their baby didn't have to go on government assistance etc.
Plenty of us males are still old-fashioned MEN who respect and protect women. Plenty of merely-males continue to use women as playthings.
Actually, most of the states with the higest divorce rates are red states:
http://www.statemaster.com/graph/lif_div_rat-lifestyle-divorce-rate
The script says the guy not only must be a good provider, but be drop dead handsome as well as being sensitive, romantic, caring, giving and totally understanding. The only guys like that in real-life already have boyfriends. ;~))
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You forgot to mention that he must be a great dancer.
The script says the guy not only must be a good provider, but be drop dead handsome as well as being sensitive, romantic, caring, giving and totally understanding. The only guys like that in real-life already have boyfriends. ;~))
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You forgot to mention that he must be a great dancer.
I disagree. I think that both sexes have a somewhat elevated and unrealistic standard for potential spouses. I know many plain men who think they merit a supermodel with a PhD who wants to scrub their toilets and raise their kids while simultaneously earning a six-figure income and screwing the socks off them every night. And I know some rather average women who think they deserve a Russell Crowe lookalike who has a law degree and makes six figures but has all the time in the world to romance them. Where do they get these ideas? I blame Hugh Hefner for the males' delusions but don't know who to blame for the females'.
A multi tasker eh? Putting out fires while surfing FR.
d;^)
got htis in an email
26 reasons why men have 2 dogs and not two wives:
The later you are, them ore excited dogs are to see you
Dogs will forgive you for playin with other dogs
if a dog is gorgeous, other dogs aren't jealous
Dogs don't notice if you call them by another dog's name
Dogs like it if you leave lots of stuff on the floor
A dog's parents never visit
Dogs do not hate their bodies
Dogs agree that you have to yell to get your point across
Dogs liek to snoop outside instead of in your wallet or desk
Dogs seldom outlive you
You never have to wait for a dog- they're always ready to go
Dogs find you amusing when you're drunk
Another man will seldom steal your dog
A dog won't wake yuou up at night and ask "If I die, will you get another dog?"
A dog will let you put a studded collar on them without calling you a pervert
If a dog smells another dog on you, they don't get mad- they just think it's interesting
On a car trip a dog never insists on running the heater
Dogs don't let magazine articles guide their lives
If you dog gets old you can put it to sleep
If a dog leaves, it won't take half your stuff
(I left a few of the worser ones out)
How far do I have to go to read about "terrible American women" and the virtues of the "subservient foreign brides"?
>>"We live in a multiple-choice society, and our options are totally paralyzing us," Strauss says. "And because we have so many choices, we raise our expectations."<<
I am reminded of the scene from Moscow on the Hudson where a Robin Williams as a recent defector from Russia goes into a grocery story and asks "where is the line for coffee" they tell him the aisle number and when he gets there not only is there no line but dozens of brands in all kinds of sizes, he has a panic attack and wakes up on a stretcher. He is helped by a Cuban defector to adapt. He takes any job he can and works his way up while the security guard (the first American he met) stays a security guard and then becomes unemployed.
The lesson I took from that is not that choices are bad but that basic principles of adapting and hard work don't change.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0087747/
bump to your post...
Thank you, I'm looking forward to just such a blessing!
Though I've seen Shrek, I never thought of it that way. That's very good. Sadly, a lot of young women don't see the ogre in themselves, only in the guy. I have a son in his late 20s who tries to date, but the women just don't seem realistic in their expectations (and he's a great catch, if I do say so). At this rate, I'll never be a grandma.
If woman realized that men do not want to go home to more of the same Sh*t that they left at work life would be so much easier.
Do you really believe this? Spend all the time in the world with them? Humble to the point of thinking he is nothing and she is everything? You've bought into the myth, my friend.
A woman doesn't want a doormat who will kiss her ass and spend every waking moment with her. How boringly predictable. Where's the challenge? Where's the excitement? You bought into the male role myth and trust me, it's a myth. Women want us to be men. If you've ever seen a woman swoon over some dirt bag who treats her like garbage, a woman who will do almost anything to keep him in her life, then you know that what you wrote about is a myth.
She may tell you that the myth is what she wants, she may even believe it...but, when she sees and feels attraction for a real man, a man who may not fit your myth in any way shape or form, then get out of her way. You will not be able to stop her from feeling primal attraction for him, no gift you can buy for her, no amount of kissing her butt is going to do anything more than turn her off and she won't be looking back.
I dislike both the people who complain about "too many choices" and the people who prefer Pepsi to Coke just about equally. I'd be more likely to shoot such people than marry one of them.
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