My driver's license is still in my "maiden" name and I have been married for 35 years. I was told that I have to file a legal name change. They would not accept my U.S. passport or my SS card or even my library card as valid secondary ID.
Now that is an interesting idea! I will look into a legal name change.
One more, what is stopping the state from back billing me taxes for filing joint returns since they no longer legally recognize marriage performed in religious institutes?