You are 100% right about the dearth of black fathers out there.
However,let me throw something rather controversial in the conversation.
I constantly hear black men of all ages complain that all too often the black women"won't let me be a man".Like that Bobby Womack song where he goes"She's always talking about what her girlfriends got and what she ain't got and why don't I go out and get them for her and then I work two jobs to get them and she complains I don't spend ehouigh time with her".
I see way too many black women who are tough and aggressive on the job because they HAVE to be that way to get respect.The problem happens when they get home and they can't turn off that part of their personality.Causes lots of problems.
Of course, I'm about to generalize, (because my husband wears the pants in my family) but maybe some women feel the need to be in control at home because of the "baby boy" syndrome. Some black men have been babied from the time they were young by mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters (with no influence by a positive male). They experience a learned helplessness where very little is require of them. The mothers teach the young women to be independent and take care of business and the home. The boy is taught to be catered to. The female takes up the slack of the missing parent, making sure the home is run smoothly and having to feel in control. Maybe this is why the marriage rate is so low in the black community. For the last 30 or 40 years we have not been stressing the need for the nuclear family. The state has taken up the space of the missing husband. It is a shame really.