"Is using a spermacide "murder" to you guys too?"
Well... since you asked. In a word. Yes.
Well that point of view goes way beyond the abortion issue into birth control. I doubt the majority of women are opposed to all measures of birth control.
Time out.
I guess I'm one pro-lifer who's not a member of "you guys". Spermicide does not destroy an embreyo, it helps prevent conception. Bluntly it reduces the chance of a live sperm reaching any fertile egg that may be present. It's not fail-safe, does not destroy the egg, and does not harm an embreyo that is already implanted.
So, explain how reducing the chance of conception is destroying an already-existing life; a.k.a. murder?
OMG. Now I'm really glad you aren't in charge.