I hear you. I'd love to be in a relationship again, but I've been a widow for 15 years (I was widowed in my 30s) and kinda set in my ways. I don't know who could stand a right wing, colored gal, rock and roll nut.
On the other hand, if you like rock (I'm downloading music from iTunes as we speak) and home cooking, maybe we could be housemates? : )
Ha! If we weren't on opposite coasts...