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In the days before wireless home phones,my ex had a 25 foot phone line so she could talk anywhere in the house,which,when not in use[very rarely]was curled up in the living room in a large circle.She had a habit of screaming and yelling at me,which I hated,over just about anything.One day,she started in because I was 20 minutes late coming home from work,as the car crapped out on me.We got into an argument,whereupon she picked up my guitar and flung it across the room.As I went to retrieve it,I tripped on the phone cord,and the phone flew off the hook hitting her in the stomach.Not hard at all.By the next day ,[NY],she had an apartment,food stamps,money,and a lawyer appointed by the state.All before noon!I filed for a divorce,but she wanted to try and reconcile.So for the next two weeks,she would spend the weekends with me,and go home to mommy during the week.During her stay on the weekends,I could not sleep with her,as that was my choice.I couldn't picture spending my life with a woman who had lied to CPS,her story to them was,I kicked her in the stomach.When I asked her why she lied,she replied her mother told her to say that to make it easier to get'assistance'.Then I realized I could not live with a traitor.When we went in front of the judge,I was not allowed to say anything in my own defense!I was tried,and convicted without due process.I was awarded 1 hour of visitation with my newborn baby girl a month!Supervised at my sisters house with her and mommy dearest present.For that one hour every month,my daughter was terrified of me,as I was a stranger to her.All the while they looked on with glee.I lasted 7 months,and couldn't bring myself to put her through that anymore.To me,it was child abuse.My only regret was I did not have the money for a lawyer to try and change what was going on.I tried a few times,but I still had to go in front of the same judge which was a waste of time.I have never had a police record of any type,then and now,but my military record was brought up,and instead of helping me,it hurt my case.I was considered a dangerous man due to some of the training I had while in.I ended up throwing in the towel.All my money went to worthless lawyers,rent,and support.The money I made for food was by playing in bars,and if it weren't for my guitar,I would have starved to death.No one more than I,wish this was not a true story.I know of others this has happened to,and I can sympathize with them.The only good thing that came out of it,was,The judges wife left him for another man[lawyer]after 35 years of marriage,and she got every thing!House,money,alimony,etc.I made it a point to call the judge at his house,and gloated,How does it feel to have it done to you?!

I made it a point to call the judge at his house,and gloated,How does it feel to have it done to you?!

I'm sorry to hear about your experience, but I wanted to know, what did the judge say to you when you called him?

And that sucks with your daughter, but I think you were right to stop the visits. One hour a month is no relationship at all. But if it helps at all, the two women were not really "looking on with glee", because glee is something they were no longer capable of feeling.

What they were feeling was an attractive rush. The rush was due to the human condition of needing to survive. So when we get our way, we feel we might survive a bit longer, we get a rush.

When people become slaves to these feelings, and perform all actions in service to them, they become ghouls, incapable of glee.

That might be too philosophical to make you feel any better, but consider that she will run wailing through life, almost assuredly looking for that rush in all things and people around her for years (unless she snaps out of it, which doesn't happen often). You left with nothing, but also no dirty personality disorders. She, on the other hand, never gets to stop being herself.